To-Do lists help

I actually get the things on them accomplished if I right them down. It didn't use to be like that, but things have changed. I can accomplish things! Yea, me.
Yesterday I gave 6 massages and a killer show. It was a really grand show and I love where my troupe is at and where we are going. Am I beat? YES. Is my knee swollen and bruised? Yes. Am I unable to use my thumb from a deep slice running across it? Yes. Typing right now is kind of interesting. Thumbs are really important. We use them all the time. My story for today:
It was my last massage of the day. I was trying to hurry because I had to pick up someone from the airport right after work. The last person on my table was a woman who lost her husband 10 days ago, and they don't know why. They are having to wait on the autopsy.
This is not the first time people in grief have ended up on my table. It makes absolute sense. Two of the people I loved most in this world are gone, and both exited this planet 6 years apart, on the same day. I know grief very well. The massage was healing for me too. I got to tell her things I wish people had said to me.
"I know where you are at," I told her, "I am very fimiliar with grief. I've had very close loved one pass away. Grief is a rebirth, because everything is stripped away. Nothing matters. Absolutely nothing but a very real loss. Unnecessary things you put value in to before don't matter anymore, slowly but surely you are left with what is truly important. In time you will see why you went through this, but not now. It doesn't make sense now. People will say stupid things. (Yes, she said, her husband and her planned to take care of their completely handicapped son for as long as they lived, and people in the past days have said to her: 'Well, I guess now you'll put him in a nursing home.' Bad timing) They just don't know any different. There is no set grieving time. My father died six years ago, and my mother still thinks about him everyday. Why not? I lost a dog and every time I think about him I wish he was still with me. Our society rudely pushes us forward at a pace it thinks we must all run, it simply isn't true. Sometimes we need to slow down, slow way down. Give yourself time and thought and consideration."

This is the general gist of the conversation. I had been running a mile a minute that day, and I knew I needed to shut off my agendas, stop, and focus on her. Being there for her was the best part of my day.